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Nina's avatar

Hmm, the thing about animals though is that plenty of them never have sex? Or have it once in a lifetime? Or once a year? Nor is it, historically and cross culturally particularly unusual for significant groups of men to have little or no sex or not sex for decades etc. I would quibble with needs and wants but obviously I see that you’re using it as “needs to be happy” versus actual physical need.

The part that took me totally out of the essay in instant feminist rage was “help her with the kids” why in the world are the kids not 50% your responsibility after you come home from work?! I overall found it odd that no where here was actual workload mentioned - when I feel like whenever I’ve heard women discussing sex or relationships it super prominent. Sure, a lot of women want better or more emotional support from their men but an overwhelming majority want more childcare work and household work and feel like the resentment of this lack is killing their sex drive. The statistics say that married women are less happy than single women and vice versa for men. Finally, one of the reasons people don’t feel comfortable saying women need to give men sex is that giving sex they don’t want to give is a truly horrible experience for many women. Like an intensely traumatic one. Others just may not be able to do it. Having sex is not like doing the dishes, it’s intensely intimate personal and vulnerable. And “having” sex you don’t want is just not that distant from rape, which is no minor thing to endure. Having said all that I basically agree with you.

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Liv S's avatar

Men are unbelievably pathetic. They are no longer legally allowed to rape their wives, so they resort to whining like this and trying to socially pressure women into having sex with their husbands even when they don’t want to.

Let me blow your mind: women also want sex with men. It’s just that most men are not good at sex. So if your wife doesn’t want to sleep with you very often, good chance it’s a skill issue.

God. you’re all such WHINERS. Cry harder that you can’t get away with forcing women to have sex with you.

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