This is so true. The simplest thing can make a man smitten. I was at the gym working out near this girl and she asked me unprompted in the sweetest, cutest voice imaginable if I needed her to move so I could have more space. My heart about melted and I couldn’t help but think of her for the rest of my workout. Just a few kind words and a feminine voice was enough to make her so desirable.
"For instance, no man, ever, said “I saw you in that dress before and now I think less of you. You should have bought a new one.” "
Very true.
But I might say "you looked amazing in that dress and I'd love for you to wear it again, but you won't do it because you care more about the other women than about me, and now I think less of you."
Women can't seem to fathom that men want women to look like a normal human being. Heavy makeup, painted fingernails, botox/fake tits, and overly processed hair only work against their attractiveness. Men aren't looking for circus clowns.
BooYaa! I especially liked the day I laughed after realizing many/most men going to the gym were insecure and competing against other men because, well, ego and insecurities.
Much respect to this essay! Great read and on point!
Hmm. So, in sword terms, don’t try to be a human spadroon*?
This is actually really sane clear advice, and it makes me feel better than anything online has in years. Thanks for writing it!
*(Famously shitty turn-of-the-19th-century sword with a design that tried to balance cutting, thrusting, and parrying but ended up sucking at all of them.)
This is so true. The simplest thing can make a man smitten. I was at the gym working out near this girl and she asked me unprompted in the sweetest, cutest voice imaginable if I needed her to move so I could have more space. My heart about melted and I couldn’t help but think of her for the rest of my workout. Just a few kind words and a feminine voice was enough to make her so desirable.
"For instance, no man, ever, said “I saw you in that dress before and now I think less of you. You should have bought a new one.” "
Very true.
But I might say "you looked amazing in that dress and I'd love for you to wear it again, but you won't do it because you care more about the other women than about me, and now I think less of you."
(Why, yes, I am single. How did you guess?)
Ok that made me laugh, well played
This is the practical dating advice America needs.
Women can't seem to fathom that men want women to look like a normal human being. Heavy makeup, painted fingernails, botox/fake tits, and overly processed hair only work against their attractiveness. Men aren't looking for circus clowns.
BooYaa! I especially liked the day I laughed after realizing many/most men going to the gym were insecure and competing against other men because, well, ego and insecurities.
Much respect to this essay! Great read and on point!
Soothing read tbh
"He’s like the Collateralized Debt Obligation of the male influence world"
Dude, you left the best line in the footnote! That metaphor made me laugh out loud. That's an impressively subtle way of signaling status.
I think this is the best, most thought-provoking post I have read on Substack. Thank you for sharing!
Well that is really nice to hear. Thank you for reading.
Hmm. So, in sword terms, don’t try to be a human spadroon*?
This is actually really sane clear advice, and it makes me feel better than anything online has in years. Thanks for writing it!
*(Famously shitty turn-of-the-19th-century sword with a design that tried to balance cutting, thrusting, and parrying but ended up sucking at all of them.)